A friend recommended this post titled “I don’t want my children to be happy“. the post was so touching! It reminded me so much of things i myself have said to family and friends when confronted about our choices to have children early, close together, and not to put a limit on kids.
I have often heard the comment that we won’t be able to give our kids what they want, or something to that effect. But in the end that doesn’t matter to us. We are not worried about being able to buy our kids all brand new clothing, a brand new car, or even covering every cent of their college tuition. We were each blessed with different gifts from our families and our parents are still blessing us today by providing and helping when and where they can. And we hope to be able to do the same for our kids. But we have no intention of every meeting their every want in an effort to make sure they live happy lives! Nope that is not in our plan as parents.
As parents our plan for our kids is to give them what they need, and to help them find out who God desires them to be and to teach them to serve him. We feel by doing that, that they will live full lives, lives where they know their value and they know the value of the people around them and none of that value will be tied up in money or material possessions. Sure they are going to have to make sacrifices as will we, and they aren’t going to be very happy when they find out they have to chip in for gas in their car and help with the payments but 10 years down the line when they are living on their own they will appreciate the lessons in budget and finances that they learned from that car. And besides all that our lord didn’t take the easy route he himself made sacrifices and he himself was the ultimate sacrifice so that we could live lives of much greater happiness and purpose.
I hope to instill that in my children and not some kind of happiness that is fleeting and will be gone when that dollar is spent.